Prince of Hearts

I have often wondered about the choices we make in life. Especially the choice in partners. Even though in the best case it hardly can be called a rational choice, there is something that we search for and seemingly find in that one person.

Again, as so often, it is the subconscious at work. Love for the one is as much a subconscious consideration of the best odds to maintain our own gene pool, and even improve upon it, as also a gut feeling about what is good for ourselves.

However, what we think is good for ourselves has to do as much with who we are as with how we were raised and, importantly, by whom.

There are several schools of thought on this, but generally the tenor is that we pick someone who best complements who we are and who, at the same time, helps us fill the voids left by our parents.

But again this decision relies heavily on our subconscious awareness of ourselves and our needs. Few people, if any, can claim to ever really know who they are. Our emotions more often than not surprise us and make us wonder, or even uncomfortable, because they reach deep down into corners of ourselves that have been stored away - at times for a good reason.

So how do we choose someone to complement the one we don’t fully know? To answer this, it is worth taking a close look at that one.

Apart from many, hopefully, endearing qualities, there will be many quirks that have lead to the same struggles over time along the lines of why-don’t-you... So, why did you pick that one? Why didn’t you see the trouble lying ahead?

In the beauty of that answer lies the secret to who we are and where we are headed.

I am in year eighteen and I am just beginning to touch the outer fringes of the blanket that holds the basket with the sachet containing the thread that wove the blanket.