Kudos to a well-known misogynist Wenn die Frauenzimmer nur wüssten was sie könnten wenn sie wollten. (Johann Wolfgang von Goethe)

Look at that Kid!!

One of the greatest things is seeing a person develop from child to adolescent and adult.
Nothing to me is more awe inspiring than seeing the spirit, that unique essence that manifests itself throughout these early years of life. Philosophers have tried to capture it in concepts, religions attribute it to a devine force, psychologist have developed typologies, and spiritualist describe it as reincarnation. The funny thing is that dogs have it too.

Smallprint

You can't get out of life alive.
(Les Brown)

Too Close for Comfort

All the talk about detachment, bounderies, letting go, lowering expectations...it’s easier said than done.

And for those of us who are not akin to yoga, meditation or vows of silence, a long weekend with the family and even with friends can be a real trial. It’s good when it works out, but it’s also good when it’s over.

The truth is we do seem to get together because we deliberately seek to renew our bond with people in our lives whom we regard as important whether these are siblings, parents, friends, significant others or our children. And without really realizing it, we go into these reunions with a clear objective in mind:

We want it to work.

And that’s where the problem begins. Because as soon as we want something, there is also the fear that we might not get it and with fear there is coping.

We may not realize it, but most of our relationships put us into a coping mode. We either try to be especially fun, helpful, reserved, pleasant, accomodating, organized or flexible to make them work. And by doing so, we become tense and we convey that tenseness, because we are acting out of fear.

Consequently, these kinds of get togethers can be quite irritating as everyone is on their ‘best behavior’ and has their radar tuned in to detect any disturbances in the air, instead of approaching the situation with an open mind.

If we could stop wanting closeness, we probably would have more of it.

April Fool

Jules was looking forward with great anticipation to April Fools Day as he had been put on a fib ban for the past three weeks after he was caught with the neighbour’s kids in illicit activities and lying about it.

As the day approached he became more and more excited because, alas, finally the time was come to break the ban and lie from dawn to dark.

However, that day came and went and nothing happened that was worth lying about.
Guess he’ll have to wait another year now...